As a teenager I loved the big philosophical questions of life, meaning and existence. Turns out I still do! However somehow I have forgotten to find the time for the contemplation of such existential inquiries. This year I am making it a priority to carve out time for me to reflect, to ruminate, to stay in some messy places that need attention and to ultimately celebrate who I have become. When Rob died I lost a huge part of who I am and it has taken me years for some of that old me to return as I have also grown and changed to who I am now. So it will be a gift to myself to actively pause and take the time to really think about where I’ve come, where I’m going and what I want. To give myself permission to be as honest as I can and as much as possible to withhold judgement. In essence, I will be holding space for myself and giving me the same opportunity that our Volunteer Family Guides provide for families.
I do anticipate some tears through the messy places along with some ‘aha’ moments of clarity and forgiveness both to myself and to others. Also some moments of laughter, joy and hope. For me this isn’t about setting any new year’s resolutions because thinking about the challenges and celebrating the achievements of the past while looking ahead is more about simply being true to myself. And that will be the first question in my list of ten questions.
- Am I being true to myself?
- Are there things I am taking for granted?
- What matters most to me?
- What do I need to let go of?
- Where am I feeling stuck?
- What am I allowing to overwhelm me?
- Where do I need to allow myself grace?
- What was I truly grateful for this year?
- How have I developed and changed as a person?
- How can I better take care of me?
As family members, whatever ‘normal’ our lives were is gone and we have to figure out how to navigate as best we can with our new normal. It is my hope for each of you that you are able to give yourself the gift of taking the time for you at this hectic time of year so filled with expectation and anticipation. To pause and truly allow yourself the grace to reflect and lose yourself to some introspection. If you have other questions please share them!
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Thank you , Kate for the welcome article on Reflection and how to hold space for ourselves.I too have been learning how be true to myself by saying no instead of automatically agreeing to something and doing it without guilt!! This has been so freeing and guess what?? The world has gone on!! Thank you, Kate!
Wishing you a New Year that makes your heart smile!
Delighted to hear that Charmaine! It is so important to know when to say yes and when to say no. And indeed the world will manage! All the best for 2018!