What is Self-Care?
Self-care simply means being kind to yourself, both mentally and physically. It is about knowing when your resources are running low, and stepping back to replenish them. It is about not letting those resources get too low in the first place. It is about consistently integrating self -compassion into your life on a daily, ongoing basis. Practicing consistent self-care can improve your mood and reduce anxiety. It can reduce the negative effects of stress.
The self-care journey is ongoing–and it changes over time. Here are some ideas and guidance to starting and growing your self-care routine:
Have you ever asked yourself ‘what does good self-care really look like?’ I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that most people don’t exactly know what self-care is to them. To be honest though, it doesn’t really matter if you haven’t figured it all out yet!...
When was the last time you were stressed out? Maybe when you were paying bills, watching the news, attempting to make sense of COVID-19 or processing paperwork as a result of the loss of your loved one. Your heart starts racing, your palms get sweaty, your stomach jumps into your throat. We experience these feelings so often we don’t even recognize that we are stressed, and that our physical and mental health is compromised.
July 24 marked International Self-Care Day. Dedicating a day to celebrating self-care and what it can do is certainly beneficial—for some people, maybe this day will be the first time that they will hear about self-care. Over the past month, we’ve explored the many different facets of self-care.
So, I’m sure we can all agree that grief doesn’t magically disappear. We are often reminded of the pain of loss. Even years after my brother’s sudden death, I still feel the ripples of what was a stinging loss.
Over the past few years, as self-care has risen in popularity, it has also risen in complexity. With products, classes, activities, and recommendations coming from every direction, it can feel really challenging to weed through everything and see what’s right for you. It can feel hard to even know what self-care is.
It’s easy to scroll past articles on Facebook about the importance of practicing self-care. It’s not always easy to practice self-care—and it can have a lot to do with time. What if you don’t have time?
We often hear the message that you won’t be able to be good for others if you’re not good to yourself. It can be a hard message to take to heart – after all, self-care seems selfish. Aren’t we taught to put others first? That works until it doesn’t.